19 May 2006

He Said, She Said

Whom to believe when friends/co-workers/clients divorce?

I've recently experienced this sticky situation. The couple have divorced and each seems like a nice person, they're just not nice together.

The husband...who is reportedly not a nice guy...just did a very nice, unexpected thing for our school. This is contrary to any version that is offered by the ex-wife but aligns with my/our perception of him. For all intents and purposes, he seems like a very nice guy. Someone I would date if I weren't married to the Mad Genius.

I am a huge believer in "There are three sides to every story: his, hers and the truth".
I'm guessing that this is in play in this situation as he reaps no benefit from what he did for us, it was just a random gesture.

Everyone has their personal version of the truth, and to them it IS true. But perspective often varies from person to person. And, as discussesd previously, people are different with one another.

Sometimes people *are* very nice but when put together become toxic. Sometimes, when going through a break-up, a person vilifies the other in order to make the process seem less painful. Sometimes, the person doesn't want to appear weak or a failure so they project onto the other. I'm going to assume this is the truth in this situation.

In the meantime, I'm going to appreciate this nice guy, crush on him a little, and assume that my perception is the correct one!

Roller Coaster

My life has recently been a roller coaster. You hear people say that all the time and it's usually in connection with emotions. Mine is connected with the speed in which life is passing.

The week days have been speeding by at an incredible rate of speed. Before I know it, Monday is Friday and I don't know where the time has gone.

Beautifully, thankfully, ironically, the weekends are the reverse. They pass slowly and lazily.
It's like the beginnning of the roller coaster where you are going up, up, up, up and anticipating the rush of the downfall.

As we reach the summer months my work life will slow down and my home life will amp up.
Our hobbies are both summer based hobbies and our weekends become action filled. My work is a school based program so the summers pass slowly.

Then comes Fall where both collide. This would be the corkscrew portion of the roller coaster. The summer hobbies have not yet ended and the school year is beginning. During this time, I can just close my eyes, hold on tight and wait out the ride. Sometimes screaming is necessary.

So, right now, I'm just sitting back & enjoying the ride. It's Friday so I'm slowly coasting...

Happy Friday! Hold on tight, Monday is coming!